I’m back – after an exhausting three-city tour with clients & a quick trip to visit family. I can’t tell you how thrilled I am to be typing this from my kitchen. In Brooklyn. DH on his guitar in the next room.
Since I’ve been so busy, I’m excited to catch up on my blog reading, restock the house with decent, healthy food and start putting my TTC plan in place. So a few updates:
1. We’ve decided to take a few months before starting a new IVF cycle (frozen or otherwise), but have our WTF appointment on Tuesday morning, right after our appointment with a therapist we’ve been seeing off & on. Once we have a better understanding of what happened this time around, we’re going to let acupuncture take the lead – and closely follow the program that my acupuncture clinic has. More about that in another post, but very top-line, they think that all women have a ‘fertility type’ and that the type can help guide food choices, exercise, etc. to help maximize fertility. The program recommends three months to prepare your body for conception – or before western intervention – and after the physical and emotional roller coaster of two failed IVF cycles – I’m ready for something that will help me reconnect with my body, my husband and myself.
2. I landed at LaGuardia yesterday about noon and got a call from a friend who lives in our neighborhood asking if I wanted to go for a walk. I’ve known her husband since I was 16 and we have gone out as couples a few times, but I am not super-close with her. It was one of those perfect fall days and since I was joining DH at an event in the evening, thought the exercise would be good. When we’d had dinner with them a few weeks ago she mentioned some ‘medical issues’ (which of course we interpreted as fertility issues because that’s all consuming these days…) and during our walk she opened up that they were starting their first IVF cycle after a few failed IUIs. Since the moment felt right, I told her about our struggle so far. I’ve told a few friends, but in large part they either have kids or are enjoying single-hood – so while they are supportive, they don’t understand. It was a relief to think that in addition to my very supportive online friends there is someone in the neighborhood, who both knows what we are going through and that I can provide some support.
And with that – off to enjoy some of the beautiful fall weather on my bike (determined to do everything that my RE said I shouldn’t during the IVF cycles). Take that infertility….
You must be so happy to be home. And to come home and make a plan, well that’s just icing on the cake. Good for you guys. Isn’t is strange how many people are suffering IF in our lives and we don’t even know it? I’m glad you made a flesh and blood connection IRL. It feels just as good sometimes to be able to be there for someone else as it does to have someone there for you.
Oh I agree — it’s so nice to find a real person who you know outside of IF and be able to talk about this. I’m glad you are home and have a plan for the next couple of months. I hope you enjoyed yesterday’s weather — it was glorious!!
Best of luck with the WTF appointment tomorrow.
I agree, having someone in real life to talk to about what we are all going through is really helpful.
Hey Gracie — I gave you an award! (I hope you enjoyed the nice weekend!)
Welcome home gracie! glad you’re back, and look forward to hearing about how the acupuncture progresses. wonderful that you’ve found out someone in the neighborhood is going through a similar struggle.
Mo
I’m glad you’re home and have a plan in place. It always feels better to have a plan! I’m also glad you found someone locally who understands the struggle. When I found that person, it was priceless. However, I have still found that my online buddies are the absolute BEST. I just think that IF women, in general, are good as gold.